Why the Sleep Divorce is a Bad Idea

It appears to be a growing trend that some couples are choosing to sleep in separate beds. According to a random survey conducted by the National Sleep Foundation in 2015, 10 percent of married couples were sleeping in separate bedrooms, and the number seems to be on the rise.

As a matter of fact, homes are now more commonly being built with two master bedrooms to accommodate partners sleeping in separate rooms. The National Association of Home Builders estimates that soon over half of all upscale custom homes will be designed with two different owner suites.

But is it really a good idea for couples to sleep apart? There are actually several reasons why it’s not an ideal arrangement.

According to some psychologists, the time before going to sleep is often the most important time for couples to connect with one another, psychologically and physically. This time is critical for cuddling, talking and developing intimacy between partners which research shows helps people to feel relaxed and nurtured.

These moments encourage bonding, feelings of comfort, happiness, appreciation, and satisfaction. Additionally, studies show that when couples talk after sex, the rise in oxytocin makes it more likely that partners will share positive feelings associated with closeness, relationship satisfaction, and trust.

Females who sleep with their partner are more likely to have positive interactions with them the next day. However, for men, just getting a good night of sleep enhances the quality of their interactions with their partner the following day.  

By not sleeping in the same bed, couples are missing out on this valuable time together. Even couples who still share the same bed but who have mismatched sleep patterns are more likely to have marital conflict, poor communication, and a reduced amount of sex. Overall, it’s best for couples to sleep in the same bed and to go to bed at the same hour, so time can be spent together in bed.

Many marriages end due to a breakdown of intimacy after partners have drifted apart, and when one or both partners start to feel the loss of connection to their spouse. This is why it’s so important for couples to sleep in the same bed.

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